Make Sex Sacred Again: The Truth About Energetic Cords

 

Make Sex Sacred Again: The Truth About Energetic Cords

Sex isn’t just physical. It’s energetic. Every time we share our body, we share our field - our memories, emotions, wounds, and frequencies.
In a world that treats sex as casual, we’ve forgotten that every intimate exchange creates a bond - a cord - that ties two energy systems together.
And those cords don’t dissolve just because we stop calling, block their number, or move on.

When two people connect sexually, their chakras align - root to crown, heart to heart.
The energy merges, spirals, and imprints.
This is why after being with someone, you may start to feel off - heavy, confused, or unlike yourself.
You’ve absorbed part of their energy - and they’ve absorbed yours.

It’s not about shame. It’s about awareness.
Your body is a temple - and temples hold memory.

The Illusion of Hookup Culture

Somewhere along the way, society convinced us that disconnection is empowerment.
That the less we feel, the more “free” we are.
That detachment is confidence, and vulnerability is weakness.

But every “casual” exchange leaves an energetic footprint.
Every sneaky link, every secret DM, every body we touch without presence - leaves residue.
Not because sex is bad, but because energy doesn’t lie.

Hookup culture glorifies numbness - it teaches us to mistake emptiness for liberation.
But the truth is, the more people we merge with unconsciously, the more fragmented we become.
We start to lose track of which emotions are ours, and which are echoes of someone else’s chaos.

That’s why you can wake up after a night that felt exciting in the moment…
and feel hollow, foggy, or sad the next day.
It’s not guilt - it’s energetic interference.

Cheating and Energetic Entanglement

Sexual energy doesn’t respect secrecy.
When someone cheats, even if the truth is never spoken, the energy shifts.
The field becomes distorted - heavy with shame, confusion, and betrayal.

That’s because energy carries integrity.
And when integrity is broken, the body feels it before the mind admits it.
You can feel the energetic residue of lies - it lives in the atmosphere between two people.

Sneaky hookups, emotional affairs, lust fueled by deceit - they all weave cords of shadow.
This is not sacred love. Although those involved may feel it to be. These cords don’t just connect people - they connect patterns.

They feed the wounds of unworthiness, validation, and desire to escape.

Until we face them with honesty, they keep pulling us back into karmic loops disguised as passion.

Situationships: The Silent Cord

We’ve all been there - a connection that isn’t defined, a “situationship” where the rules are vague, but the physical connection is real.
Maybe they don’t call, maybe they see other people, maybe they’ve never committed - but somehow, you give them your energy, your body, your presence.

Energetically, situationships are some of the trickiest cords to cut.
You’re entangled without consent, without clarity, and often without reciprocity.
Your energy lingers in their field, and theirs lingers in yours - a constant pull of longing, hope, and uncertainty. 

Even if the body separates, the energy remains.
You may feel heavy, distracted, or emotionally off center. You may find yourself comparing every new connection to this one, replaying moments, or justifying their absence.

Situationships teach a hard truth: energy can be taken even without love, intention, or commitment.
And unless you consciously reclaim yourself, it will continue to drain you.

This is often where limerence begins - the obsessive, intrusive thoughts, the longing, the fantasy of “what this could be.”

Most people treat limerence like infatuation, but spiritually, it’s something much deeper:

Limerence is the soul trying to resolve an old wound through a new person.

It’s an energetic echo - the nervous system chasing the feeling of availability from someone who is fundamentally unavailable. Spiritually, limerence pulls us toward a person who mirrors an unresolved attachment pattern:

• a parent you could never fully reach

• a former partner who was inconsistent

• a childhood wound around worthiness

• a karmic memory of abandonment

That obsessive pull isn’t love - it’s the inner child fighting for closure it never received.

Limerence turns a situationship into a soul lesson by magnifying everything that needs healing:
your self-worth, your boundaries, your attachment style, your fear of being alone, your desire to be chosen.

Limerence isn’t about the person.
It’s about the part of you that’s starving for emotional safety.

Situationships activate limerence because something inside you thinks:
“If I can just get this unavailable person to choose me, it will heal everything I’ve carried.”

But what actually happens is the opposite - the wound gets louder, the longing gets sharper, the fantasy gets brighter, and you drift further from your intuition.

Spiritually, limerence is a teacher.
It shows you where you’re leaking energy.
It shows you where your longing has been suppressed.
It shows you where your nervous system still confuses intensity with intimacy.
It shows you where your childhood wounds still whisper, “Prove yourself worthy.”

And most importantly:

It shows you what you still have to reclaim.

Reclaiming Your Power from Situationships

The same cord clearing practices apply, with a focus on reclaiming presence:

1. Set a firm intention: “I release all energetic cords from situationships that are not aligned with my highest good.”

2. Visualize boundaries: See a protective bubble around your body and field, reclaiming what was unconsciously shared.

3. Dissolve cords: Imagine them evaporating or burning in pure light.

4. Call back your energy: “I am whole, and all my energy is returned to me.”

5. Re-anchor yourself: Walk in nature, meditate, or engage in practices that ground your body and energy.

Situationships aren’t shameful - they’re lessons in awareness, boundaries, and valuing your energy.
They show you what it feels like to give too much, without alignment, and why sacred sexuality matters.

Signs You’re Still Corded to a Past Partner

• You still feel their energy in your space or dreams

• Random waves of emotion that don’t feel like yours

• You compare every partner to them

• You feel drained, uncentered, or “off” after sex

• You can’t stop replaying moments or wondering if they’re thinking of you

Your energy isn’t broken - it’s entangled.

Sacred Sex Is Conscious Energy Exchange

Sacred sex isn’t about perfection or control - it’s about awareness.

Sexual energy is the most potent life force we carry. It’s creation energy - the same frequency that births galaxies, ideas, and new realities.

When shared without consciousness, that power becomes chaotic.
When shared with intention, it becomes divine.

When both people enter a sexual connection with presence, respect, and intention, energy flows cleanly.
There’s no stealing, no depletion - only circulation and amplification.

When you treat your body as a vessel of divine energy, you stop giving your power away just to feel wanted.

You become magnetic to those who meet you in truth - not just chemistry.

To make sex sacred again - remember:
Your energy is currency.
Your body is holy ground.
And every connection is an energetic contract - choose it like prayer, not distraction.

X,

Jean 

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